Monday, April 21, 2008

Work in progress

Yesterday was a busy day of interviewing and photographing.
It started with A, who came by the house. She spoke about establishing herself as a business woman and about helping other hispanic women. She said she's been a mother, a wife, and a housewife. She's got those roles down. Now it's time to move into a new role. My converstation with G later in the day was along similar lines. She said she's entering a new stage of her life. Now that she's given herself a firm physical foundation she's free to explore the interior her. It's like the pieces of the puzzle have all come together and now she can finish painting the picture. Her marriage is at a point where they've settled into communication and support, she's got two kids and doesn't plan for more, she's finished her education and has a job she likes. So now, it's time to focus on herself. She described herself first as a woman in her thirties.
I'm finding that identities are falling into two categories- either the women are coming to a new place in their lives- entering a new stage- or there is a conflict within them between various identities and they are choosing one.
I also met with AM to photograph her. Before we began we sat around chatting with her mother. When I finished taking As pictures, I realized I should has her mother to participate as well, since our conversation had been an interview. She spoke about her struggle with being a mother-in-law because of her daughter-in-law's perceptions of her. The joy is in her new son-in-law with whom she has a beautiful relationship. This is one woman, being perceived differently by two different people, a perfect example.

2 comments:

Sharoon Sunny said...

Still so relevant Cynthia. I am coming into my own, but still trying to shift between identities.

Lomagirl said...

I think the shifting is something we do throughout our lives. Just when one identity seems pretty strong, another needs adjusting. The key is the core identity.